A Jaded Gay
Living in a world of fuckboys, homophobes, and inequalities can leave a gay feeling, well, jaded, so tune in for your weekly dose of gay empowerment. We're talking pop culture, politics, and dating hardships, all through the lens of overcoming gay trauma and nurturing our emotional wellbeing.
Episodes
150 episodes
149. Boats, Bears, and Building Community (with Chumley Singer)
LGBTQ+ individuals often navigate the diverse landscape of the queer community to forge connections that resonate with their identities, seeking spaces where they feel seen, understood, and supported. The bear community, with its celebration of...
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Episode 149
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56:34
148. Ethical Non-Monogamy: Redefining Relationships (with Jeff Hudson)
In a time when relationships are no longer confined to traditional labels, ethical non-monogamy allows gay individuals to build connections that align with their unique desires and values. By fostering open communication, trust, and mutual cons...
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Episode 148
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39:35
147. The Ultimate Guide to Gaycations (with Jason Heidemann)
In previous episodes, we've explored the key themes of gay villages and how destinations like Fire Island and Provincetown serve as sanctuaries for the queer community. Gay men, in particular, are often passionate about travel because it provid...
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Episode 147
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1:09:34
146. The Velvet Rage
Throughout many episodes, we’ve discussed how gay men continue to grapple with the shame they internalized as children growing up in a predominantly straight society that often invalidated or condemned their identities. This lingering shame can...
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Episode 146
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34:25
145. Resisting Erasure: Preserving LGBTQ+ History (with Michael Venturiello)
In past episodes, we've explored pivotal moments in LGBTQ+ history that have often been overlooked or erased, highlighting why remembering our past is so vital. With the current administration actively trying to erase our history, preserving an...
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Episode 145
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56:27
144. Bullies Beware: Confronting LGBTQ+ Bullying (with Mike Keller)
The current landscape of LGBTQ+ bullying remains pervasive, especially in schools and online, where discrimination and harassment can have devastating impacts on mental health and well-being. Not only does this isolate individuals, but it also ...
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Episode 144
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37:08
143. Heal from Religious Trauma (with Ann Russo)
For gay men raised in religious environments, they often internalize harmful messages that condemn their sexual orientation, fostering a deep sense of unworthiness or fear. This religious trauma can manifest in lasting struggles with shame and ...
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Episode 143
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36:52
142. Get Over Your Het Lag
Het lag is a humorous term for the exhaustion and disorientation queer people experience after prolonged exposure to exclusively straight environments. While the term is lighthearted, it speaks to the very real psychological toll of minority st...
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Episode 142
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20:30
141. Queer All Year: 365 Days of Celebrating Pride (with Patrick Gevas)
While many people equate Pride to June, Pride events happen across the world throughout the year, amplifying the voices of the LGBTQ+ community. Given the recent political climate and ongoing challenges to LGBTQ+ rights, it's more important tha...
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Episode 141
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51:28
140. Calling All Allies: It’s Time to Step Up (with Greg Baird)
While many people support LGBTQ+ rights and equality, true allyship goes a step further by actively standing against discriminatory legislation and amplifying queer voices. In this current political climate, it’s crucial that our allies remain ...
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Episode 140
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40:17
139. You're Probably Gayish (with Mike Johnson & Kyle Getz)
Gay stereotypes often arise from oversimplified and exaggerated portrayals in the media, which overlook the complexity of individual experiences and reinforce societal biases. While some of these stereotypes may seem harmless or humorous, they ...
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Episode 139
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41:19
138. Will & Grace
We’ve previously examined the history of gay representation in TV and film, tracing its evolution from early portrayals to groundbreaking moments like Ellen, which helped pave the way for greater visibility. Among these influential shows, Will ...
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Episode 138
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25:55
137. Who’s Your Daddy? (with Sal Zambito)
The term "daddy" has been used as slang for over 300 years and was embraced by the gay community in the 1970s, particularly within the leather subculture, leading to the popular phrase "leather daddy." Today, in gay culture, "daddy" represents ...
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Episode 137
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46:08
136. Closets & Cocktails: The Secret History of Gay Speakeasies (with Chris Holcombe)
In previous episodes, we discussed how gay men often found refuge in mafia-owned private bottle clubs, where they could drink and socialize without the fear of police raids or public hostility. These underground venues, while risky due to their...
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Episode 136
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1:06:12
135. Don't Be A Mean Gay
While playful putdowns and throwing shade have long been a celebrated form of humor and bonding among gay men, they can sometimes perpetuate cliques, exclusion, and toxic behaviors within the community. Not only does this behavior reinforces ha...
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Episode 135
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18:36
134. A Message of Hope for the LGBTQ+ Community
Following the harm inflicted on the LGBTQ+ community under the Trump administration from 2017-2021, including attacks on transgender rights and the rollback of anti-discrimination protections, many fear what the new era of Trump may bring. Howe...
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Episode 134
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23:58
133. Best of Guests (2024): Part 2
As the end of the year approaches, it’s important to take a retrospective look to appreciate the challenges overcome, goals achieved, and lessons learned. In doing so, we can use the knowledge gained to build a stronger foundation for the year ...
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Episode 133
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48:19
132. Best of Guests (2024): Part 1
As the end of the year approaches, it’s important to take a retrospective look to appreciate the challenges overcome, goals achieved, and lessons learned. In doing so, we can use the knowledge gained to build a stronger foundation for the year ...
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Episode 132
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1:08:02
131. Ringing in Controversy: The Salvation Army's Complicated Relationship with the LGBTQ+ Community
Since 1865, the Salvation Army has provided social services, such as shelter, food, and rehabilitation programs, to people in need. While known for its goodwill and iconic holiday red kettle campaign, the organization has faced controversy with...
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Episode 131
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23:06
130. Pride in Motion: Inclusive Fitness and Body-Positive Coaching (with Roy Belzer)
In previous episodes, we’ve delved into the complex relationship gay men often have with body image shaped by societal expectations and stereotypes that idealize a lean, muscular physique, leading many to experience feelings of inadequacy and s...
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Episode 130
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46:44
129. The Gay Wellness Revolution (with Peter DeWitt)
In most episodes, we often discuss how gay men face unique mental health challenges due to societal stigma, discrimination, and internalized stress, which can exacerbate issues like anxiety and depression. Prioritizing mental health and wellnes...
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Episode 129
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48:03
128. Situationships: What's the Sitch?
Situationships are undefined romantic or sexual relationships that lack clear commitment or future plans, often leading to ambiguous expectations between partners. For some gay men, growing up in a heteronormative society can lead to attachment...
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Episode 128
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21:31
127. Gay Icons: The Queen of Pop (with Stefan Mreczko)
Previously, we discussed our iconic pop queens and how their songs typically fit into distinct categories that hit an emotional button that appeals to gay men. These categories often include themes of empowerment, heartbreak, resilience, and se...
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Episode 127
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1:20:28
126. Gay of the Dead: Unleashing Queer Horror (with Sean Abley)
In previous episodes, we explored how queer themes have been woven into horror for over 250 years, highlighting that the genre has always had an inherently queer essence. It resonates with many members of the LGBTQ+ community since it often ref...
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Episode 126
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